ANXIETY AND PERFECTIONISM

When doing your best has started to feel like never doing enough.

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You may be someone who is capable, thoughtful, and used to holding a lot together. But underneath the competence, your mind may rarely quiet down. You overthink, second-guess yourself, worry about letting people down, or feel responsible for things that aren't entirely yours to carry.

Maybe you have a hard time resting without feeling guilty. Maybe you're always thinking about what you should be doing next.

Anxiety and perfectionism can become ways of trying to create safety, certainty, or control. We are hardwired to respond to stress in ways that block our intuition and presence. 

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In therapy, we'll slow down to understand these patterns with curiosity and compassion—not simply try to make them disappear.  I help clients understand their stress responses, reconnect with their core values, and utilize humor as a supportive tool. 

Together, we'll explore the expectations you've internalized and make more room for self-trust, flexibility, rest, and being human.
 

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You don't have to earn your right to rest.

FERTILITY, PREGNANCY, AND POSTPARTUM

You don't have to navigate this tender season alone.

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Trying to conceive, experiencing infertility or loss, becoming pregnant, giving birth, and adjusting to life with a baby can bring so many emotions at once—hope, joy, fear, grief, overwhelm, love, and sometimes feelings you didn't expect at all.

Maybe pregnancy has brought up anxiety you weren't prepared for. Maybe your birth experience was difficult or traumatic. Maybe you're struggling with postpartum anxiety, depression, rage, or simply feeling unlike yourself.  Or maybe you're surprised by how hard this transition has been when you thought you would feel happier.
 

Therapy offers a place where you don't have to pretend everything is okay. We can make space for your experience, your changing identity, your relationships, your body, and the weight of all the expectations surrounding motherhood.

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We can also work on helping you get more sleep and advocate for the kind of support you actually need right now. 

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And if you're preparing to return to work, we can make room for that transition too—the guilt, the logistics, the changing sense of identity, and the question of how to care for yourself while caring for everyone else.

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MOTHERHOOD, IDENTITY, AND MATRESCENCE

Motherhood changes you. It doesn't have to erase you.

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Motherhood changes everything.
Becoming a mother is more than adding a new role to your life. It can change your relationships, your body, your sense of time, your priorities, your identity, how and when you drink coffee, and the way you understand yourself.

Matrescence is a true right of passage that can involve profound growth alongside disorientation, grief, ambivalence, anger, and the feeling that you don't quite recognize yourself anymore. I believe motherhood deserves more room than our culture often gives it.

You don't have to “bounce back.”
You don't have to become the perfect mother.
You don't have to lose yourself in order to love your children well.
 

In our work together, we can explore who you were, who you are becoming, and what you want to carry forward. We can talk about the tension between caring deeply for your children and wanting a life that belongs to you, too.

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LIFE CHANGES
AND GRIEF

Some changes are chosen. Others choose us.
 

There is nothing more human than grief. Grief shows up everywhere from physical death to the loss of a hoped for future to chosen life changes such as a career change, a move, becoming a caregiver. Grief is an exhausting and invisible companion who asks us to pay attention. In therapy, we can acknowledge and process your feelings, make sense of what has changed, and listen for what is beginning to emerge. We don't have to rush you toward acceptance just because the world expects you to be okay.

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For Motherless Mothers:
 

I have a particular interest in supporting women who are living or mothering without their own mother. Perhaps your mother died when you were young or you lost her more recently. She may be estranged, emotionally unavailable, or unable to be the mother you need. You may identify with the term motherless mother even if your experience doesn't fit neatly into a particular kind of loss.
 

Milestones, holidays, birth, illness, parenting decisions, and the ordinary moments when you wish you could call your mom can make her absence feel newly present.  Therapy can offer a place to talk about the mother you lost, the mother you didn't have, and the mother you're becoming. 

You don't have to navigate this inheritance alone.